i'm not that forgiving

perhaps a character flaw 🎙️

i’m no saint. i don’t easily forgive, especially the 2nd time around for the same act.

sure, i can understand someone’s actions, their intentions, and move past them, but that doesn’t mean i have to necessarily express that it was okay to treat someone or hurt them a certain way. understanding isn’t the same as excusing.

to me, forgiveness means accepting an apology as a bandaid for one’s hurt and using that to heal. it’s acknowledgment, not erasure. time will heal most things - i can accept a bandaid with gratitude, but it’s not a necessary component to me moving on from something.

the first time around for most things, i’ll forgive it (depending on the gravity…), because people mess up. people misjudge, miscommunicate, and act out of impulse.

if 2 people have already had a conversation about someone’s behaviour, that apology was never very sincere to begin with, or at the very least, it wasn’t backed by enough intention to change.

an apology tends to be a bandaid, when really it should be a promise to prevent that same cut from opening again. otherwise, an apology is just damage control.

today’s drops 🔎

• apply to join the girlhacks innovate series in boston

• ad ops internship @ vevo

• fidhacks (fidelity’s hackathon) registration is open until april 7th